Posts tagged ‘truth’

August 8, 2012

worth fighting for

disclaimer: i’m simply using where i go to school as an example. ignorance exists everywhere. and i’m not saying NU is particularly bad at this- i’m just saying that it happens on a daily basis, and way more than  you think.

Northwestern University, this prestigious school, this place where intellectuals were supposed to be thriving, where the kids are supposed to be the brightest, the most educated…right?

in reality, most of the kids lacked so much common sense and so much every day real world knowledge. these kids, instead of being accepting and open to things, were so closed off and so judgmental. it hurt so much to hear some of the things that were being joked about and being ignorantly said. never in my life have i heard so many condescending remarks regarding where someone grew up, where one went/goes to school, etc…it truly breaks my heart and brings tears to my eyes.

today, i wanted to write about a topic that is very near and dear to me. it’s something i fight for every day and i want to educate as many people on it as possible. i went to an honors program for both middle school and high school. with the infamous IB program and a top-notch culinary arts program, my high school was ranked #4 in the country in my sophomore year and every year, we hit nearly every Ivy League university. yes, my school was an amazing place. however, it was also in the worst part of town, because we needed to boost the morale of the school. putting the IB program at my high school, we could boost up the average AP and IB scores of the school and whatnot. i learned a lot from the area where my high school was located. i learned about the people, the culture, and most importantly, how fortunate i was for having the opportunities that i had, because not everyone was equal, and not everyone was given the same chances in life.

for most of you reading my blog, going to college was probably a gimme, a duh, a no questions asked, part of your life that proceeded after high school. most of you who are under that category, probably also judge immensely, where others attend college, if at all.

i get the stereotype. people who don’t attend college after high school are lazy so they didn’t wanna work in high school, they’re probably stupid so they didn’t get into a “good” college. you know what? fuck you. there are about 22345 other factors that decide what someone is doing after high school. and you know what else? that school that you go to? there are others better than it. yep, even if you go to “the top school” because there are always departments better than yours. ever wonder what other people from “better” schools say about you for not getting into their school? also, how’s this, yeah, you might go to Northwestern- but do you know how people from, say, Yale might feel about the fact that you don’t attend/get accepted their school?

and yes, i put quotations around all qualifying or categorizing words about schools because, well, what does that even mean? wait, before you say that some list told you so, think about how stupid you’re about to sound. a list. that’s man-made. yeah? okay. sit down. please.

i wanted to tell you guys about the most amazing person i have ever met in my life. name’s not important, but here’s the story. he’s currently a community college drop out. i know the thoughts passing through you’re head. you’re already assessing him- judging him. but here’s what you don’t know. he graduated high school and attended the local community college after passing up a full-ride baseball scholarship at a 4 year university. he dropped out half way through because his grandmother had breast cancer and he had to take care of her. today, he’s struggling to get back into school with a in-state tuition. but you know what? he can’t, because his dead-beat of a father doesn’t want to acknowledge his own son. his father had to give 2 numbers, his social and his driver’s license. but he couldn’t. and he wouldn’t. because of that, my friend was delayed in going back to school. he is one of the smartest, wittiest, funniest, brightest people i have ever encountered.

but do you know the amount of judgment he got from Northwestern students when they met him for the first time and asked what school he attended? of course, they automatically assume that, just because he doesn’t go to a top 15 school like they do, that he was worse off than they were, and of COURSE he was dumber than they were. i mean, why else would he not go to a top-notch university?! if there could be any more sarcasm in the world, blood would come out of my eyeballs. the shit literally makes me sick to my stomach. the ignorance and evil perceptions of people who weren’t “as good as them” that came from my fellow classmates upset me in ways i thought were never possible.

i guess, what i’m trying to preach to you today is, please please PLEASE don’t judge other people’s intelligence or their effort to try to “better themselves” because you don’t know their stories. you don’t know where they came from, and you certainly don’t know where they’re headed. it’s not always black and white, and it’s not always that simple. i ask you, if you don’t do anything else today, to please, just open up your eyes. and when a judgmental thing comes to mind, push it away. train yourself. you can’t call yourself well-educated or well-rounded if you still have these ignorant as fuck thoughts. in fact, you’re the ones that society looks down upon for being so judgmental and naive. people in the real world laugh at and judge you. truth.

July 31, 2012


i’m talking females and advice today. here’s the thing. and here’s MY thing. if you know me at all, this post will come as no surprise to you. i don’t mind giving advice- in fact, i love it. i like that people value my opinion on certain topics. but this is the deal. i give advice. and i give it once. you can take it or leave it after that. but please, please, PLEASE don’t come back to me, with the same issue, if you didn’t apply what i just told you. don’t waste your time, and don’t waste my time. here’s why i’m posting about this today…

all names are left out because i’m not trying to pick fights with any one of my dear girlfriends today. also, this pertains to way more than just one of you out there…ready?

here lies the problem…i know of this problem because i do believe that i was once this girl. granted, i crashed and burned, then learned from the mistakes. these girls all haven’t been burned (yeah, take that in whichever way you want. and yes, what you’re thinking of is one of the ways through which maybe, just maybe, they’ll learn) hard enough yet. clearly.

men are easy to read. men are not as complicated as we, women, give them credit for. they are simple and straight-forward as a whole. now, i understand that there are personalities and quirks that make people more complicated, yeah yeah, i get that. but i’m saying, in general. men, hell, even PEOPLE, are very easy to process. men can’t be dogs if you don’t let them bone. CHURCH! *drops mic*

you know that saying “you can’t turn a ho into a housewife”? that’s the moral of the story here. don’t go ho-in’ your ass around then expect for dudes to wanna wife you. it’s not going to happen. i understand that our culture is not making this very clear. read: Chyna got both picked up and knocked up by Tyga and when they met, she was a KOD stripper. but please understand that she is also gorgeous, tatted & thicker than bread ‘n’ butta. and she works at KOD, dammit. her lifestyle is not the same as yours. and as much as you might wanna think this, you don’t look like her either. moreover, think of all the other KOD strippers, or just strippers in general, who aren’t getting themselves a Tyga. there is, truthfully, only one rapper for every 2938783 strippers out there. this is, also, by no means a diss towards strippers. i went to my first strip club not too long ago and was seriously impressed by some of the actions i saw. do whatchu gotta do, and go on witcha bad self. but i digress…

i guess what i’m trying to say is, you can’t go to a bar, decide to get all up on the guy, say you won’t be mad if he doesn’t catch feelings (because, let’s be real, he’s just lookin’ to smash), then get upset when he doesn’t want your ass in any way, shape, or form (yes, your literal ass, but no, not you) right after. remember the night before when you said that it didn’t matter and that you were just out to have fun? where is that mentality the next morning? let me clarify: i’m not saying that there is anything wrong, per se, with this lifestyle. if this is how you wanna live your life, by all means, go for it. i’m saying don’t try to live this lifestyle if you’re not ready for it. and unfortunately, i’d say 85% of females (at least, who i know and who come to me for advice) aren’t and will never be ready for this kind of lifestyle. and that’s okay. but own it.

don’t get mad at the men for playing the game, get mad at yourself for letting the game get ran on you…

last thought. the thing that pisses me off most though? when i fortune-tell these girls and forewarn them that this is going to happen, they think they’re above it. really though?  if you really do “got it like that”, then kindly, no 2am phone calls or texts begging me to come through for you to cry on and vent to. bitch, please. we ain’t got time for all that.

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